5 Things To Consider and Discuss Before Getting Married, From Finances To Family

Relationship Tips:  Marriage is a new chapter in the life of anyone. It is a turning point, and also a leap of faith, where trust and love are the primary driving forces. Deciding to spend the rest of one’s future with someone is a gigantic decision, but many arrive at it due to emotions or social expectations. Amidst it all, many do not consider foundational aspects like shared values or beliefs on parenting or living with family, and more, which later became a point of contention in the marriage. Unfortunately, sometimes such ties end with separation. So, if you love someone and are thinking about marrying them, then you need to discuss 5 important concerns with them. 

Finances 

From savings, debt, investment, and the understanding of money should not be a hushed topic. It is vital to discuss the current financial situation along with future financial preparedness, as budgeting and debt management need to be discussed. 

How will be managing your individual finances, and will there be any joint financial endeavours for the future, should be discussed beforehand.

Shared Values & Lifestyle 

Discussing the aspirations in a long-term future, and vision of life is an essential discussion before marriage. From the values of the world to the personal beliefs like views on gender roles, feminism and others need to be talked out.

As well the kind of lifestyle the two people lead, the agreements and disagreements on work hours, personal space and time, and social interactions, should be valid points of conversation.

Religion 

In India, religion is a major force in making many decisions, especially those one to marriage. Discuss views on your religion, and the differences you have on the same. Also discuss religious tolerances, practices of the individual community, and how you are both going to navigate the same with the families. 

Communication and Conflict Resolution

Communication is a two-way road, but the people on the road should be aware of each other’s love language, ways of communication, emotional needs, and ways to resolve conflicts. 

Also discuss the views of including professional help, as relationship counselling, if and when needed in the relationship.

Family and Relationships 

Past relationships, family history of ties, and relevant personal experiences need to be shared before taking a step like marriage. 

Along with that, what are the expectations and boundaries for one another when it comes to family involvement, holidays,gatherings, etc. The expectations of each other’s family from one another and their involvement in personal life all needs to be discussed.